Why a Man Leaves His Wife for Another Woman

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We all know that break-ups can be tough,  especially when you’re going through a break-up with a person that you live with. However, the breakdown of a marriage can sometimes be life-shattering. This is especially true if it is completely out of the blue and one of you suddenly announces that you’re done with the relationship.

Studies show that women are more likely to file for divorce compared to men, and one of the most common reasons is infidelity. So with this in mind, we want to know, what makes a man leave his wife for another woman? Let’s explore some of these reasons and discover how to pick up on some tale-tell signs he’s being unfaithful. 

What are the signs of a married man in love with another woman?

It’s easy to think of infidelity in marriage as purely physical and animalistic deceit, however, a lot of affairs happen due to a married man falling in love with another woman. You may be thinking how can a married man fall in love with another woman whilst he is still with his wife? Unfortunately, it happens, way more often than you may think.

So, we’ve put together some signs to be on the lookout for: signs that can be a giveaway that a married man is in love with another woman. 

He never asks how you are 

Does he still ask about your day? Is he listening when you’re venting about that work colleague or listening when you tell him about your trip to the park with the kids? A fundamental sign that your marriage may be on the rocks, is when he stops asking these questions and stops wanting to know how you’ve spent your time. If this is the case, chances are his mind is somewhere else (or on someone else). He may also seem very jittery, preoccupied, and on edge. In some cases, not only will it seem like he doesn’t care, but he will actively start avoiding having to interact with you beyond the complete basics. 

He’s physically distant 

Many men (and women) consider sex to be one of the most important aspects of a marriage. Although this depends entirely on your marriage dynamics, but, if you find that you’ve gone from having a lot of sex, to hardly any affection at all, that’s when you know there is an issue.

Although we have to point out that lack of affection doesn’t always mean he’s cheating. Lack of intimacy can stem from family and work stress too. So it’s important to talk to him about these issues. If you are noticing your man obviously “pulling back” and not seeking as much physical affection, then chances are he has something on his mind or perhaps has fallen for someone else. 

He starts forgetting special and meaningful dates 

Some men are prone to forgetting an anniversary here and there, and if this is the case then it doesn’t necessarily mean he is cheating. Suspicions should arise if you notice a sudden and intense drop in his recollection of important dates.

For example, if you’ve been dropping hints all week about your birthday, and he still forgets, there’s a problem. You may be used to being made to feel like an absolute queen on your big day, but if that suddenly changes it’s a huge sign that he has stopped caring about making you feel special and is channelling his efforts elsewhere…

He seems to be hiding something 

Do you know that gut-feeling? The one that always turns out to be right? We have a women’s intuition, we know when they’re hiding something. There are several telltale signs that your man is hiding something from you that he doesn’t want you to find out about.

For example slamming the laptop shut when you walk into a room, hiding his phone from you at all times, taking secret phone calls in the car, the list really can go on. If you are noticing this type of strange and shady behaviour increase in your husband’s daily routine, then it’s possible he is speaking to another woman. 

Why do husbands leave their wives?

Other than infidelity and falling in love with another woman, there are so many other reasons why husbands leave their wife for another woman.  

Dissatisfaction with their marriage 

This is one of the main reasons why a married man can fall in love with another woman. For example, if sex and physical intimacy have become more of a chore, and your partner is showing no interest in improving the situation or making it better, than he may search for sexual satisfaction elsewhere. 

Emotional neglect can also cause a man to leave for another woman. So he may want to fill that emotional void somewhere else. Reaching a point of wanting to cheat can be incredibly difficult, but for many men, the dissatisfaction of a marriage can force them to go down this dishonest path. Everyone has their own needs and keeping those needs satisfied is an extremely important part of maintaining a happy relationship. 


As awful as it sounds, spouses can get bored in marriage. If you’ve been together for a long time, it’s easy to get stuck in a routine and stuck in a rut. Perhaps the sex isn’t as frequesnt or as thrilling as it once was, you both fall asleep watching Netflix in different rooms, doing the laundry together is as close to a date night you’ve had in years. And some men (and women) may go and look for a bit of excitement and a thrill on the side, which can lead a man leaving his wife for another woman if he falls for her, or the excitement of being with other people.  

He doesn’t feel needed or important

One reason why men leave a marriage is that they feel unimportant and they are not needed as much as they’d like to be. This is down to the “hero instinct” that is embedded in many males, meaning that they have an innate desire to feel needed and essential to their woman. Some men can’t handle when their wives aren’t giving them this hero status feeling, they may seek this feeling elsewhere and leave their wife for another woman. 

Personal changes 

As humans, we are constantly evolving and changing through our personal and professional lives. However, this doesn’t mean that we change at the same rate or in the same ways. Two people may have been perfect for each other at one moment in time, but that doesn’t mean that they will continue to be perfect for each other forever.

And this is nobody’s fault. If a husband, for example, is starting to feel that they are at a different stage in life and need something else, he may start to feel resentful that they are holding their wife back and keeping them from their true potential. He may find what he’s currently looking for in someone else and can result in him leaving his wife for another woman. 

It’s important to remember your value and your worth. So if this your husband does leave you for another woman, that usually is not a reflection of you or who you are as a person. It just means that you are at different stages of your life.

However, all you can ask for is honesty and respect on both sides. And if he can’t give you that, it’s not worth your tears or time, and you deserve more.