Love is something that will always reward effort, and loving a woman is no different; you have to be willing to work at it.

How To Love A Woman

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Knowing how to love a woman is a challenge. There are many types of women, and therefore many different ways to love them. If you can love the woman that you are with completely, it will make a huge difference to your happiness, and the happiness of the woman you love.

Love is something that will always reward effort, and loving a woman is no different; you have to be willing to work at it. Before we talk about how to love a woman, let me share this love quote with you:

How To Love A Woman

“The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman’s heart.”

– Josiah G. Holland

1. Be open and honest with her. In love, communication plays the starring role. The ability to talk together is of utmost importance, and you should always make it a priority. If you can communicate openly with the woman you love, then that love will be sure to grow.

If you can talk with your girlfriend without holding anything back, then the joy that the two of you can share is infinite. As long as you can talk and listen to each other, then no problems will be insurmountable.  

2. Tell her you love her (but only if you do). It’s not enough to say, “well she knows how I feel about her”. Women like to hear the words. If you feel it, say it.

3. Show her that you care. Make sure the woman you love knows how important she is to you. Make sure that she knows her happiness is your happiness. If your girlfriend is upset for any reason, be willing to listen to her problem, and try to find a way to fix it together. Never be embarrassed to show your love, and never let there be any doubt about how much you care for each other.

4. Make love your priority. If you make the relationship important, then your partner will too. Don’t let your love take second place in your priorities. Spend time with thw woman you love. Do things together that you both enjoy.

Sometimes work can seem to get in the way of love, but do everything you can to stop that from happening. Regardless of what else is going on in your life, make sure that there is still time for the woman you love.

5. Tell her that she looks beautiful. If you think she is beautiful, then tell her so. No need to keep how you feel a secret. It sounds like nonsense, but everybody likes being told once in a while that they are attractive. It shows that you think about her enough to notice.

6. Love and romance should go together. Being romantic with the woman you love is one of the fun parts of being together. Don’t forget about romance just because you are busy in your daily life. Surprise your girlfriend with romantic notes, nice dinners, picnics in the park. . . anything that lets her know how wonderful you think she is, and how happy it makes you to be together.

7. Make her a candle-lit dinner. Just because it’s the new millennium doesn’t mean that romance is now outdated. When was the last time you’ve even heard of a guy making a candlelit dinner for the woman he loves? It just doesn’t happen very much anymore. But it should. And you should be the one to make it happen.

8. Appreciate the love you have. Don’t ever fall into the trap of taking your relationship for granted. Be thankful that you are with such an amazing and wonderful woman, and make sure that she has plenty of reasons to be thankful that she is with you too.

True love can be hard to find, and you should always be grateful that the two of you are able to bring happiness and love into each other’s lives.

9. Don’t get jealous. A loving relationship is based on trust. If you become jealous every time your girlfriend talks to another guy, it shows that you don’t trust your girlfriend to be faithful. It’s not good enough to say, “Well I trust her, it’s the guy that I don’t trust”.

That’s still jealousy, and it still shows that you worry about your girlfriend jumping into bed with anyone who pays her a compliment. Jealousy has no place in a relationship based on love and mutual respect. Period.

10. Support her. In love, two people are as one, so it’s important for the two people to work together. Everything is easier when two minds share the same thoughts; all challenges are halved, and all happiness is doubled. Be willing to offer support to each other, and the good times will far outweigh the not-so-good times. 

11. Always smell nice for her. The sense of smell is more important to women than most men realise. Always make sure you smell fresh and clean. Even if she says she loves your “rugged style”, that doesn’t mean that you can start skipping showers.

You should also find a fragrance that she likes, and wear it for dates, or whenever you spend time together. Smelling nice for the woman you love is a very good way to show her that her pleasure is important to you.

12. Be willing to forgive. Neither of you are perfect, and being in love doesn’t mean that you will never make a mistake again. Sometimes it will be your partner who makes a mistake, sometimes it will be you, and sometimes you will both make mistakes.

That’s not a problem as long as you are willing to forgive each other. Accept that we all do things that we regret from time to time, and be willing to move on.

13. Tell her how lucky you are to be her boyfriend. She is an amazing, caring and wonderful woman; otherwise you wouldn’t love her. Let her know that you understand how lucky you are to have such an incredible person in your life.

14. Don’t go overboard when you argue. It’s normal for people to argue occasionally, even when you love each other. Don’t fight just for the sake of fighting, however. If there is a problem that needs to be discussed, then of course you should discuss it, just don’t make it a competition that one of you has to lose.

That’s not what you want. Focus on the issue itself; don’t focus on who did what wrong. That way you will be able to argue less often, and spend more time being in love.

15. Watch her favourite movie with her . . . even if it stars a half naked Brad Pitt.

16. Love yourself too. A man should have love and respect for himself. Love and respect for a woman can only be complete if a man has first experienced those emotions within himself. If two people come together in a relationship based on those qualities, then all will be well, and their love will endure.

To that end, do nothing that would make you lose your self-respect. Treat people well, and do not tolerate being treated badly yourself. Embrace who you are, and you will find it much easier to embrace the woman you love too.

It’s not always easy to follow these tips, but the rewards of a loving relationship are definitely worth the effort.