They say there’s plenty of fish in the sea – and there is no place more populated than the ocean of online dating! Whilst there’s a lot of opportunity, choice and chances at love online – it’s all-too-easy to get lost in the crowd. This is where finding the perfect Tinder openers are crucial in securing your chance of connecting with someone on an online dating app.
There’s a lot to think about when navigating the waters of online dating too, from finding the perfect profile picture to crafting a bio that’s just right for you – all before you’ve even gotten a match! Much like IRL dating, finding a match is one thing, but keeping them? That’s another ball game.
Once you’ve matched with someone, you need to actually talk to them, which sounds simple and easy, but nowadays is far from that. In true internet fashion, there’s a problem with the sheer number of people we connect with online – it’s getting harder and harder to keep people’s attention.
We all know the struggle of dealing with an endless stream of “Hey”’s from matches or conversations that inevitably fizzle out, and it’s enough to make anyone bored.
It’s also encouraging people to be more – as the great Megan Thee Stallion would put it – “savage”. So the harsh reality is that when you’re dating online, you need to find a way to stand out otherwise you’ll be kicked to the virtual curb, or worse, ghosted.
So forget leading with “Hey” or the 2020 favourite “How has your lockdown been?” In 2023, we’re giving you the best Tinder openers to secure you that match.
What makes for good Tinder openers?
Good Tinder openers will vary based on what kind of first impression you want to give your match. So whether you want to make them laugh or make them think, your approach will need to be tweaked.
There are, however, some things that the best Tinder openers have in common. They tend to…
- Be unique
- Be easy to respond to
- Spark a conversation
- Make the other person think or feel something
- Make them want to get to know more about you
Funny Tinder openers
If you’re a certified class clown or just want to inject a little fun into your match’s day, then why not try out some funny Tinder openers? These will (hopefully) make them laugh and set the tone for a more relaxed, light-hearted conversation. If things don’t work out romantically, then you might have even found a friend out of it!
Here are a few you could try:
“Well, here I am. What are your other two wishes?”
“I was blinded by your beauty; I’m going to need your name and phone number for insurance purposes.”
“Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes.”
“You’re so beautiful that you made me forget my pickup line.”
Send a GIF or meme
GIFs and memes are almost as universal a language as maths. No matter where you’re from, a funny GIF or meme can provide some humour, as well as elicit an emotional response from your match too.
Try a pick up line
Tinder pick up lines can be a little hit and miss – so tread carefully here. The good thing is that if you do pull it off, your match is likely to find it amusing. Be warned though, this is a risky strategy and could see you being ignored!
Here are a few you could try:
“Hey I was writing an article on the finer things in life and was hoping to interview you.”
“My mom told me that life was a deck of cards, so I guess you must be the queen of hearts.”
“I’m gonna sue Spotify for not including you in the ‘Hottest Singles of the Week’ list.”
“I’m no photographer, but I can picture us together”
On a scale of 1 to 10 you’re a 9, and I’m the 1 you need”
Clever Tinder openers
Are you looking for a mentally stimulating connection, or think your match is in the market for one? Then clever Tinder openers are just what you need to spark an interesting conversation and hopefully, a relationship between the two of you.
Ask them a travel question
Whether you ask them which culture they’d like to learn more about or what the most beautiful country they’ve ever been to was, travel questions are guaranteed to spark a good chat, and make great Tinder conversation starters. Plus, everyone loves to travel!
Tell them a fun fact
Got some facts hidden up your sleeve, or maybe you need to learn a few? Opening with a fact related to something that your match is also interested in can be a great way to start a conversation. So make sure to do a little research so you’re not entering the chat with a random fact that could scare them away!
Here are a few:
Dolphins can make half their brain sleep and the other half stay awake to search for danger
You lose up to 30 percent of your taste buds during flight.
Every time you shuffle a deck of cards, you get a combination that’s never existed.
Open with a question
Nothing gets your brain ticking like a question of choice. So rather than a generic “Hey, how are you?”, try giving your match a little bit of a challenge that could grab their attention.
Here’re a few ideas:
“Would you rather be in jail for a year or lose a year off your life?”
“I’m sorry if this is too personal too fast, but I’ve got to know. What’s your favourite shape of pasta?”
The best Tinder openers to use on a girl
When it comes to using Tinder openers on women, you really need to be on your best game. Many women receive numerous messages and matches throughout the day, so if you want to impress her, you have no choice but to stand out from the crowd.
Give her a specific compliment
Compliments are great, but an attractive woman will be all-too used to being called beautiful or pretty. If you want to pay your match a compliment, then make it specific. We’re all showcasing our best selves online, and that image is an extremely carefully curated one. So show her that you’re genuinely interested in her by paying attention to her profile and giving her a meaningful, specific compliment.
The best Tinder openers to use on guys
We’ll be honest, it’s easier to get a man’s attention. Partly down to the fact that they outnumber women so much on dating apps, and also because they are used to doing the chasing. So if you’re approaching him, here’s a tip for finding those perfect Tinder conversation starters.
Ask them about themselves
We all know that talking about ourselves makes us feel good. In fact, speaking about ourselves stimulates the pleasure centre in our brains. In other words, asking your match about themselves is a fool proof way of sparking a conversation and giving them a little ego boost too! Even better if you find that you have mutual interests or hobbies.
Whilst this is by no means an exhaustive list of Tinder openers, it’s a great place to start.
Lisa is the editor of European Journal, and always makes time for everyone and lightens up lives with her presence.
When she finds time to write she writes about what she truly loves, and you guessed it, its people and relationships.